tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post1885981322621419502..comments2024-01-21T21:41:49.449+11:00Comments on Foxs Lane: She's the boss.Katehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04234467488696653117noreply@blogger.comBlogger30125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-38521615168179619852012-07-03T15:41:24.134+10:002012-07-03T15:41:24.134+10:00Ohh getting the balance right. Very tricky indeed....Ohh getting the balance right. Very tricky indeed. I feel so guilty about all the times I fob them off with a 'not just now' or 'in a minute'. Your boss for a day idea is great - I'll definately give it a go. I'm really bad at mindfulness, as my mind wanders back to my endless to-do list... I need a bit more practice that's for sure!Amberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16119307170323441286noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-84065522496571658082012-07-02T09:17:42.441+10:002012-07-02T09:17:42.441+10:00I don't think anyone has ever got the work/res...I don't think anyone has ever got the work/rest/play balances right! For all your ideas, keep a notebook by your bed, in your bag, by your computer, sketch and make notes, I do and when you've got a little 'me' time you can go have a browse and it's amazing how the original idea becomes something amazing.<br />Jak xJakhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01208269163297762265noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-55833049488248696262012-06-30T19:12:30.435+10:002012-06-30T19:12:30.435+10:00Hello, new follower to ypur blog. Balance like tr...Hello, new follower to ypur blog. Balance like treasure is in the eye of the beholder, you the owner of the treasures find the balance, for me, mine is different from yours, for you, yours are differ from mine. How beautiful is being different in our world! Hope you pop on over and say hello in my life. Very gorgeous girl, I coukd not help letting her be the boss every day.Rowantree Designhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12501278055615301003noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-84805150702530663332012-06-30T01:25:05.628+10:002012-06-30T01:25:05.628+10:00I think the kids get more of me than I do but I li...I think the kids get more of me than I do but I like the idea of giving them totally everything - I've heard it called a love bomb and used as a recipe for unhappy, naughty kids. Maybe then I could have a day to myself afterwards, a little more free of guilt. Ah the balance, maybe there is never any true balance, there just is. Just another 18 months with one at home for me, I have really treasured the last 11 years raising little ones, its a gift.Kirsty @ Bowerbird Bluehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12511849105347338654noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-44832426619320303662012-06-29T14:08:07.656+10:002012-06-29T14:08:07.656+10:00this post reminds me of a book Ruby brought home f...this post reminds me of a book Ruby brought home from kinder called "The Choosing Day".... similar sentiment about the child choosing what they want to do day! Sweet as :)))jennihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05735990435746634711noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-65354180526646150462012-06-29T12:43:30.812+10:002012-06-29T12:43:30.812+10:00We've been having a few of these kiddy-boss da...We've been having a few of these kiddy-boss days here too. Lots of spiderman and cars and moshi-monsters. Drawing and reading and adventure-walking. If we don't enjoy the time when they are completely dependent upon our attention, they will soon outgrow it and we will wonder where it went...<br /><br />And so I get up earlier, stay up later and enjoy my "me time" when they aren't around :) Thanks for your blog - It's been a long time between reads, but I am glad to be reading again :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16587297036951667881noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-35920165247456406912012-06-29T12:42:17.131+10:002012-06-29T12:42:17.131+10:00Thank god you said that you don't have it all ...Thank god you said that you don't have it all figured out after twelve years. I have a 19mth old and I grapple with balance constantly. Am I spending enough time with him, am I getting on top of my to do list, am I allowing enough creative time? <br />I just bought a book called "Buddhism for Mothers" I'm only one chapter in but it gives me hope that I will soon feel a little more peace.<br />Good luck. Love your Blog. Keep up the awesomeness :)Lisanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-13525750811764092822012-06-29T12:24:00.254+10:002012-06-29T12:24:00.254+10:00It's so funny, I was reading this post after h...It's so funny, I was reading this post after having a similar day with my toddler. Mine was not a conscious effort like yours but an attempt to have a calm day, enjoying each others company. <br />I am new at being a stay at home mum, after 13 years of being a working full time mum, I was under the false impression that it would be a breeze.... you know, doing the same stuff just more time to do it. Ummm I was so wrong, this place is crazy town! I used to pack up our leftover dinner for work lunches, they are now packed away for those days I can't get my s@*t together and get dinner on the table. I find the balance of productivity and having meaningful toddler time tough. Having older children does make it a bit easier, I have started delegating to them to ease the load a bit. I guess 'perfect' balance is different for every family. <br />I really enjoy your blog - thanks for sharing xTashhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02830032838361539687noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-75494469112364978272012-06-29T10:58:26.380+10:002012-06-29T10:58:26.380+10:00Miss Pepper is one very special little girl to hav...Miss Pepper is one very special little girl to have a Mum like you. One whole day with your undivided attention.<br />When I start panicking about ideas that I have in my head and whether I'll lose or forget them because I'm busy, I write them down in my special book just for that purpose. I feel better then, it's on paper and not going to be lost.<br />Balancing and juggling life, such a tricky thing but I think you are doing a fine job of it...you're are thinking about it and that makes all the difference.<br />Anne xx**Anne**https://www.blogger.com/profile/05595796965034742923noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-37704864094245275222012-06-29T09:24:57.534+10:002012-06-29T09:24:57.534+10:00Balance is such a tricky thing to work out. I'...Balance is such a tricky thing to work out. I'm not always good at "playing" with the kids. Drawing, kicking the soccer ball and cooking is more my thing. I'm trying really hard to just be with them without any normal disruptions. Its hard, the housework is always calling and so is my sewing room.....<br />A great post.BOB & MABELhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17244409268452820389noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-85307531726765761672012-06-29T02:13:57.542+10:002012-06-29T02:13:57.542+10:00Children are not little for long. Soon enough the...Children are not little for long. Soon enough there will be time aplenty and you will be pleading for them to spend time with you. Just because you pay attention to your child it doesn't mean you watch tv all day. Children are intelligent and stimulating people, there is no dumbing down, no sacrifice involved. Children need more intelligent input than most jobs and are more rewarding than any. There is though a balance but one which always in my view errs on the side of giving your children the time that you both deserve. Out of all the projects you make there is none so precious as your children. Knitting blankets or sewing dresses can wait if necessary but children live in the now and time doesn't stop for them. Write down your ideas so you don't lose them and do them if you have time. Later if not now you will have that time. Choosing to spend time with children has tangible results and an important legacy, getting a pair of socks perfected less so.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-14373011862049023222012-06-28T23:38:27.024+10:002012-06-28T23:38:27.024+10:00A beautiful heart felt post, about something that ...A beautiful heart felt post, about something that is on my mind a lot. Precious moments happen when we slow down and share with our kids. Life and love happening in their time, so wonder full. xxxleah of sang the birdhttp://www.sangthebird.com.aunoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-4475282443074043032012-06-28T22:52:26.327+10:002012-06-28T22:52:26.327+10:00A post from the heart, and only you know the answe...A post from the heart, and only you know the answer.Sweet Peahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17175172836690042400noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-63753920374467501222012-06-28T22:47:35.625+10:002012-06-28T22:47:35.625+10:00I still struggle with it too. I have many regrets ...I still struggle with it too. I have many regrets about not giving enough time to my girls when they were little and just as many guilty feelings about the times I brush them off now. Thankfully I'm more aware of how little time we have left with them being at home so I'm slowly getting better... I hope. I've taken to asking myself if the project/plan/task I absolutely have to finish is more important than them... one track answer but it's incredible how often I need to pull myself up and ask the question. Sounds like you guys had a lovely day :) KxParaventhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08233095857473624372noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-69103185403551568182012-06-28T22:13:21.857+10:002012-06-28T22:13:21.857+10:00I once had a friend who set the microwave clock to...I once had a friend who set the microwave clock to determine her play time with her child. Short ten minute bursts. She thought her child needed to understand that she had priorities... I chose I would never be like that. My house was messy...shocking even, but I have played crazy games, and have memories of everyone running around the house with teatowels tucked into their pants as tails.<br /><br />And then the teenagers ? It may be a little more deathmetal and rocky horror picture show, but we still "play" . we send stupid emails and youtube clips, and the house is still a mess.Jodiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02924653077212971448noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-64023853334263286482012-06-28T22:10:34.348+10:002012-06-28T22:10:34.348+10:0010 years in here and still have no idea about bala...10 years in here and still have no idea about balance .. or pretty much any of this parenting caper! Just when you think you're getting the hang of it, it changes!<br />My smallest started school this year and I envy your time. Enjoy!<br />And make sure you let yourself enjoy the next phase when it comes too. (I'm still working on that)Jenny from Ohjohhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08812335475702211773noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-27653487615682804882012-06-28T22:07:54.290+10:002012-06-28T22:07:54.290+10:00Lol...oh great minds think alike...I did this Wedn...Lol...oh great minds think alike...I did this Wednesday and blogged about it.... :-) www.5pumkins.blogspot.com.au......PEpper is adorbs xkellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02945710703939292438noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-2102025284307067622012-06-28T21:17:22.119+10:002012-06-28T21:17:22.119+10:00Only if I make a conscience effort is there a bala...Only if I make a conscience effort is there a balance, otherwise I am just trying to do all the chores. I hate it when I am running on auto pilot, when I am telling them everything is fabulous yet I can't even see it properly from the kitchen sink.<br />My best days are when I have one or two of them out and about and I do everything at their pace, and I actually give 100% of my attention. I read somewhere once that this really resets their little clocks, makes them feel special and loved and helps them cope all those times when you can't give them your all.<br />I used to re fold but now whatever will do as long as it ends up in the correct draws before the piles get knocked over by Miss 2 I am happy. two of my girls are brilliant folders, they take after their dad there not me.<br />I whole heartedly salute your day, makes me feel like I am long overdue.humble habithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08957058996766153624noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-22780330630171833442012-06-28T21:05:54.752+10:002012-06-28T21:05:54.752+10:00Loved this. I let my 4-year-old fold and I chuck i...Loved this. I let my 4-year-old fold and I chuck it in the drawers as it is. I don't iron so I don't care. As long as it's clean, I couldn't care less. Amazing really, because there's too much control freakery around everything else with me sometimes, but I try and make sure that I let go of a few things. Sounds like you had a lovely day.Vanessahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09205721394366642669noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-50071615527788068292012-06-28T21:04:37.105+10:002012-06-28T21:04:37.105+10:00My biggest fear, saying in 5 years time....where d...My biggest fear, saying in 5 years time....where did the time go? I am so aware they are young and eager for our company for only such a short time and I want for them to know they can come to me for anything anytime. Setting up the trust and time now I think will help keep those comunication lines open. Finding balance is definately not easy.At Number 32https://www.blogger.com/profile/05545312470881825520noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-36204401771905745542012-06-28T20:11:46.506+10:002012-06-28T20:11:46.506+10:00I struggle with this daily and there's no way ...I struggle with this daily and there's no way I'm happy with the balance yet. xMaxabellahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15761220164069379437noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-43537246518025528802012-06-28T19:59:33.678+10:002012-06-28T19:59:33.678+10:00Been going though exactly the same stuff here. Whe...Been going though exactly the same stuff here. When baby Otis has his nap, I tend to try and do my own things- but I've realised that on the days that Charlie is here, I need to devote that time to her. So we've been having three hours, three days a week that she chooses and we do. It's hard to put your creative thoughts aside isn't it? So good when you can though and just totally be present with them. Adam bought me a journal for my plans, so I just jot down my ideas in there when they pop up (I use this at night too, to help me sleep otherwise I can be up for hours formulating plans!) and check em out later. Maybe that would work for you? It's hard being so many things at once, but you seem to do a damn good job! xxTania Verdezhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09981092775236178182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-18676159079708830182012-06-28T19:50:24.002+10:002012-06-28T19:50:24.002+10:00Kate, it seems to me that the fundamental key to a...Kate, it seems to me that the fundamental key to all of this is just not folding the washing. Full stop! And maybe investing in deeper drawers to hold all the scrumbled clothes :)flora bloomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10145683535627564180noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-44215146401998677772012-06-28T19:34:04.380+10:002012-06-28T19:34:04.380+10:00another lovely and honest post....i have almost lo...another lovely and honest post....i have almost lost my second to school as well, we still have our third lad to start kinder next year...feels like just yesterday they were my baby boys....sadly it is this next busy phase that i am not adjusting to...i am in my baby mourning phase, husband snippoed (after cancelling 3 times)...what do i do now that i am no longer feeding babies and washing nappies? i am entering a new phase of parenting and needing to find that pesky balance ratio too...they need me less and less, but i want them more and more...i have worked hard with husband to allocate some one on one time with each of my boys to maintain contact, to maintain that connection that feels oh so fragile with the male of the species...i try to computer when they are in bed...i like to craft & create with them so that the seeds are sown...just being present with them makes such a difference both to them and me...i still go project crazy and my house is definately of the lived in type and not a show place...we have a fabulous garden that we can eat out of though and that to me is worth more than mopped floors...i totally agree with reannon and i love to doodle in a sketchbook and jot down ideas. it travels with me wherever i go and it is my special place for me to remember, for me to get lost, for me to have some me time...its a crazy path this parenting caper, and i thought it was just the baby bit! the baby bit seems so easy now...masters 2, 4 & 6 mould my day, they help to create its ebbs and flows...im just going to hang on to the rollercoaster for a few more months until they are all occupied outside the home....then slowly, i will create my own crazy ride again...thank you as always for sharingwhitneynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-22720245420693852722012-06-28T18:13:08.162+10:002012-06-28T18:13:08.162+10:00I have no balance! But my kids are getting bigger ...I have no balance! But my kids are getting bigger now & they don't want me as much as they used to. They entertain themselves for the most part so I try very hard to be there when they actually want me.I think it is important for our kids to realise that we as parents have lives & things we like to do too but this is more true when they are bigger I think. when they are little I think they need to know how important they are but balance is key!<br /><br />As for the ideas, do you keep a notebook? I have one next to my bed with pages of lists. Things I'd like to cook,bake, make, do around the house, read, go. I write them all down so when I think I have nothing to do I look at my list & remember all the things I've wanted to do but had no time to do them or forgotten about.Reannon https://www.blogger.com/profile/04215161182830545561noreply@blogger.com