tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post1067096548716085963..comments2024-01-21T21:41:49.449+11:00Comments on Foxs Lane: Naughty girls.Katehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04234467488696653117noreply@blogger.comBlogger34125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-77052158647472843682012-12-04T05:55:09.904+11:002012-12-04T05:55:09.904+11:00Greetings from Colorado! I'm bored at work so ...Greetings from Colorado! I'm bored at work so I decided to browse your blog on my iphone during lunch break. I really like the information you present here and can't wait <br />to take a look when I get home. I'm amazed at how quick your blog loaded on my phone .. I'm <br />not even using WIFI, just 3G .. Anyhow, very good site!<br /><i>Look at my webpage</i> - <b><a href="http://weightloss-clinics.org/26/get-back-in-shape-immediately-after-your-baby-with-fit-yummy-mummy/" rel="nofollow">discover</a></b>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-22166830838576233492010-12-25T11:42:49.900+11:002010-12-25T11:42:49.900+11:00OH!! pretty rainbow I love to watch you grow :)OH!! pretty rainbow I love to watch you grow :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-85142237499530254052010-12-23T14:00:16.176+11:002010-12-23T14:00:16.176+11:00wow, just reading all of the comments re: the litt...wow, just reading all of the comments re: the litterbug. i have been in this same situation this year. i have a friend whose children are really disrespectful towards me, my family and home and i have stopped having them over. i need my energy for my own children and often when these other kids come over it all ends in tears anyway so i find it really easy to say no thanks when they ask to come over. i really like their mother but can't stand that she does nothing to keep a lid on their challenging behaviour, i feel like slapping her! oh god, did i just say that out loud.. <br /><br />love, love your knitting, it's gorgeous.<br /><br />merry christmas to you and your family kate, and best wishes for a wonderful and exciting 2011.<br /><br />xAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-20064505488436472302010-12-23T09:14:56.227+11:002010-12-23T09:14:56.227+11:00Hmm, I'm a bit of a nazi mum...I would have g...Hmm, I'm a bit of a nazi mum...I would have got ALL of them to help the man, lined ALL of them up to apologize and then taken ALL of them home...no moe play. Then I would have informed ALL there parents so that we ALL could be a united front against it. Power to the parents I say!!! Its is hard but sometimes you have to be firm to kids in your care, they need to respect you....I alwasy try to establish some firm grounding just incase we are ever in a dangerous situation..ie..the beach.Leonie @ Cuppa and Cakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00803212715916250588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-31388933953827743102010-12-22T22:07:00.292+11:002010-12-22T22:07:00.292+11:00hmmmm, I would treat someone elses child as I woul...hmmmm, I would treat someone elses child as I would hope mine would get treated. When I was a kid I remember being horrified when I was told off by someone else other than my parents so I try to be nice. I think sometimes when the parents can't seem to get through to the child someone else might be able to, but it must be loving and kind.Elishahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08984594455114037343noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-48986706905739181882010-12-22T19:31:03.890+11:002010-12-22T19:31:03.890+11:00Easy - I treat any child in my care the same as my...Easy - I treat any child in my care the same as my own child. If the're naughty they get told off the same as I would my son and if ther're hurt they get a cuddle ect All my friends know this and I have never had any one say anything - not to my face anyway :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-54867818323560506072010-12-22T15:15:36.524+11:002010-12-22T15:15:36.524+11:00Sounds to me as though you did the right thing. Yo...Sounds to me as though you did the right thing. You can't ignore that sort of behaviour, and it wouldn't be fair on the child or the other children who witnessed it, OR the young bloke who was the cleaner, if you did ignore it.<br /><br />I think it's entirely appropriate to say to another kid "Your parents wouldn't like you doing that if they were here, and I don't like you doing it while you're with me." As well as the actual lecture about respect and why she shouldn't be doing it in the first place, obviously!<br /><br />(and I probably would've gone on about it a bit too long as well. I can't abide bad behaviour).Susehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14837796439737091649noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-9346809941183569272010-12-22T15:06:03.011+11:002010-12-22T15:06:03.011+11:00Oh man, I have no idea what I would have done in y...Oh man, I have no idea what I would have done in your situation - I don't even know what to do when kidlets are misbehaving when their parents are around lol, it doesn't help either that I generally don't like other people's kids... ;)<br /><br />Stealing a mo to run around to my fave peeps & wish them a very merry Christmas... so I thought I'd come here too.... :p<br /><br />Have a great Chrissy Kate, looking forward to sharing 2011 with you too.<br /><br />xoVichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00036114016276478304noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-45436454243899588792010-12-22T12:04:41.069+11:002010-12-22T12:04:41.069+11:00Its a hard question!
I hate when ppl (mostly relat...Its a hard question!<br />I hate when ppl (mostly relatives) discipline my girls when i am right there, but if i leave them in charge, then i would want them to discipline my children how they know i would! <br /><br />Virtues like Respect are far to important to let incidents like that slide!<br />And having them behave like that around your children without any consequences sets a bad example for your children too!Hannahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08095845183727667303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-90884938066132246742010-12-22T09:53:07.688+11:002010-12-22T09:53:07.688+11:00I am pretty strict when it comes to bullying and b...I am pretty strict when it comes to bullying and being disrespectful. I agree that I would have made her apologise to the man! A bit of helthy shame won't hurt her!!! You did the right thing in trying to explain it to her though without yelling. Did you tell her mother?Sophiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01063658387867042342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-70714760642706290112010-12-22T05:14:02.815+11:002010-12-22T05:14:02.815+11:00Oh this is one of the things I like least about be...Oh this is one of the things I like least about being a parents. First off I would have made the child apologize to the man, second I would state to the child they made the mess they clean it up, and third explain that because of their actions I would let their parents know and they may not be able to go with you in the future. <br />If my child was to behave badly with another parent I would hope they would let my child know that what they did was disrespectful.Itchin' Stitchin'https://www.blogger.com/profile/02832173649017255807noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-50831583824581492222010-12-22T02:47:07.717+11:002010-12-22T02:47:07.717+11:00I would have done the same thing you did in that s...I would have done the same thing you did in that situation. You were the adult and you saw a child being rude. And remember, your own children were watching how you managed it. Rules of behavior are rules of behavior no matter whose children are misbehaving. It's stickier when the other parent is there and doing nothing. As I get older I tend to jump in then, too.<br /> I LOVE that you are stirring your strawberry pot while we are looking at a white Christmas. It's cold, snowy, icy and gray here. We missed the lunar eclipse because the sky is so low you can touch it. Merry Christmas!Denice Barkerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17986804178687634451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-85282989601411279552010-12-22T01:09:27.154+11:002010-12-22T01:09:27.154+11:00I wonder if the yarn is a Gradual Gradient from Jo...I wonder if the yarn is a Gradual Gradient from Jolly Jumbuck in Western Australia. http://www.jollyjumbuck.net/store/WsDefault.asp?Cat=GradualGradientYarn<br /><br />As to the naughty girl. I agree with the other comments. I'd also make sure that the Mum knew you'd had to have a chat to her daughter about her behaviour.Fiona https://www.blogger.com/profile/03413026086451057399noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-12284413120010430352010-12-21T23:42:03.071+11:002010-12-21T23:42:03.071+11:00I think everybody agrees you did just fine, Kate--...I think everybody agrees you did just fine, Kate---but explain something to me: two knitters had possession of that magnificent yarn and then destashed it? Good golly! I'd have framed it if I couldn't bring myself to make it into something---even a potholder would look amazing with that yarn to work with!Wendyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14626286815589144470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-11835602009188880142010-12-21T22:22:44.404+11:002010-12-21T22:22:44.404+11:00I would do what you did in your situation. The ol...I would do what you did in your situation. The older I get the more confident I am in expressing how I feel about situations, I've done it a few times at school when I see other children do the wrong thing but they know the rules and shouldn't be breaking them. Just like the children you looked after they know the rules and I'm sure that they wouldn't get away with it with their parents so why should they do it with you. You did a great job Kate. xoCathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11314373295390794669noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-10831908559560554492010-12-21T22:15:46.889+11:002010-12-21T22:15:46.889+11:00I think you did well telling the girl off as you w...I think you did well telling the girl off as you wouldn't want her and the other kids to think that is an acceptable behaiviour. The only kids I had to look after so far were around age 3, so I don't have much experience with telling them off, however I had to stop a little boy (and my daughter, who followed his example) from throwing things in my house as it was getting dangerous and took them outside to play. Ironically enough another little boy behaved wonderfully when he was with us by himself, but when his mum is present he turns into nasty little pushy break-every-rule brat and I don't agree with her ways of disciplining him (she just tells him off and forcefully drags him into "naughty corner", which is any random place). So we've been avoiding them, which I feel bad about, but I don't have a better solution - maybe I should've talked to her about it, however it is hard to discuss parental views with someone one doesn't know very well without offending.Zoyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05188606014773150853noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-55205262742843853712010-12-21T21:19:03.382+11:002010-12-21T21:19:03.382+11:00Hey lovely, I reckon I would've done the same ...Hey lovely, I reckon I would've done the same thing ---I'd probably still be yarping on about it... My brother, his wife and boys stayed with us recently..the smallest (2 1/2) repeatedly threw his dinner on the floor, despite my pleas for this to stop and warnings that he would have to stand outside the door and watch the others eat theirs...Guess where he spent the remaining time left for dinner? My brother and his wife said nothing ..the whole time to stop the behaviour or manage it...HUMPF... I agree..the village raises the child. Your girls will definitely remember and I think the other girl will too. You did good. Merry Christmas. PPeta @ Pippiwillowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01684083422607597467noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-43620805499683851132010-12-21T18:18:36.893+11:002010-12-21T18:18:36.893+11:00You did exactly what I would have done, except I w...You did exactly what I would have done, except I would have thrown in a few, "DO you think your Mummy would be Happy with the way your are behaving?" comments and threaten her with telling her parents. How ever if her reaction was as you say it was then it may not have any impact! Once had one of my son's friends spit in his face, that was a really hard one! Chalk it up to experience and don't invite her out again?Flaming Norahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01777449640443864333noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-26781113374319075012010-12-21T17:47:45.824+11:002010-12-21T17:47:45.824+11:00Everyone seems to have the same idea, so you must ...Everyone seems to have the same idea, so you must have done the right thing! How about when the misbehaving child is a stepdaughter? And a teenage one? Gah!<br />Love the wool too!Nichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08344093454588416071noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-17795761641157444782010-12-21T17:13:38.355+11:002010-12-21T17:13:38.355+11:00Very difficult, I think I'd ask the child why ...Very difficult, I think I'd ask the child why they had done it.... I would ask them how they would feel if I went over to their home and did the same thing, I probably would have expected my children to start picking it up if she wouldn't and for them to tell her it was wrong, peer pressure helps, I would also explain that she wouldn't be invited out again if she didn't start clearing it up now, but I would be reluctant to invite her again anyway. Love the wool....Crafts @ Homehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16159786508502458007noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-31276514376452947522010-12-21T15:20:55.037+11:002010-12-21T15:20:55.037+11:00I think you did exactly the right thing.
The only...I think you did exactly the right thing. <br />The only other thing you can do is defer to a 'higher power' .... THEIR mother.<br />Inform them that you will be speaking with their parent about their behaviour and that they will have to answer to THEM.<br />If the parent then responds in a half arsed way, I'd think twice before having that kid over again.Andihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04494036247908661426noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-17492637636925733412010-12-21T15:14:30.819+11:002010-12-21T15:14:30.819+11:00That's such a tricky one. I really get uncomfo...That's such a tricky one. I really get uncomfortable at having to deal with other peoples kids when they are naughty, it's very touchy subject. I often feel I let my own kids down because I might let the other kid get away with something that I wouldn't allow them to do, but I guess when they are in your care, you do have a responsiblity. If it were my child I think I'd be happy for you to have told them it was wrong & ask them to tidy the mess, thats exactly what they'd expect from me.I would be really cross to if one of my boys behaved that way with someone else..urgh, difficult. Your rainbow vest is wonderful!mel @ loved handmadehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11089482748571082995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-59325126160336345542010-12-21T14:27:09.742+11:002010-12-21T14:27:09.742+11:00oh yep - the village raises the child in my opinio...oh yep - the village raises the child in my opinion. As an ex teacher I have no trouble raising my eyebrows at any misbehaving child anywhere in my eye sight - my partner has to put up with me eye telling off kids in public everywhere. I believe that as a community we have to not only support other adults but provide a community boundary that is held up for all to see. In the old days people were fine with complete strangers telling their kids when they had crossed the line and also giving them some encouragement when they did wonderful things. I think that is my way - so go with it- although I agree with the group spray comment. At that age there is a bit of responsiblity coming into it to - do not be complicit when you know the behaviour is not ok. so please, if you see my boy in the street (hmm not likely for now) please smile if he is lovely or frown and do some eyebrow work if he is steppin over the line! community community community - or we will come to a terrible demise!Umatjihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15413838821059854456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-10702486486972462172010-12-21T14:15:12.059+11:002010-12-21T14:15:12.059+11:00I'd react the same way that I would hope anoth...I'd react the same way that I would hope another Mum would, were she on watch and my kid misbehaved. Calm, firm, clear. We had two extra kids here yesterday. I informed Marcus that if he wanted to join us for muffins he'd need to clean up the mess he made. He had told me was making the mess so he could watch me cleaning it up! It took Marcus ten minutes before he got his muffin. He does think I'm a witch but he still didn't want to go home.<br /><br />Mwah ha ha haaar....Taniahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17520680195281725886noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-43854654416640880042010-12-21T13:50:38.988+11:002010-12-21T13:50:38.988+11:00Pretty black and white situation really. the littl...Pretty black and white situation really. the little one was being a brat and disrespectful- I would want someone to correct that if Busy ever did it. its not like you yelled and screamed that would be wrong but you just explained it. As far as I am concerned if they are on your watch they are like your kids. Same with my house my house rules. It annoys me when people come over and let their kids trash Busys toys then leave without helping to clean up.... we are teaching them by modelling and I think if you see them do something wrong and no one else says anythign or is around to do so then it is up to you. You did good. xxCath @ chunkychookyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07926661077860579075noreply@blogger.com