tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post5543360398378861770..comments2024-01-21T21:41:49.449+11:00Comments on Foxs Lane: stressing out!Katehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04234467488696653117noreply@blogger.comBlogger71125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-83179837613475573412016-08-27T11:03:56.575+10:002016-08-27T11:03:56.575+10:00i think i have been where you are...
or in a simil...i think i have been where you are...<br />or in a similar location if not the exact same longitude and latitude...<br />it is never easy.<br />i completely saw myself in your words<br />"i don't want to live this out for her"<br />i remember feeling this exact same way,<br />wishing i could take her hard lessons learned<br />and pass them back to her in a gentler easier way to be learned.<br />Sigh.<br />hugs to you. big hugs.gkgirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00403357033466233622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-23427302424935777352016-08-08T22:12:06.557+10:002016-08-08T22:12:06.557+10:00This comment has been removed by the author.Camillahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08832221422797705456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-15730778133551021862016-08-02T22:08:32.857+10:002016-08-02T22:08:32.857+10:00We've never met an this is the first time I...We've never met an this is the first time I've read your blog. But tonight I'm sending so much love and hope to you. What you describe is exactly the fear that's been haunting me the last few months. The what ifs of raising my own amazing little girl. Is it tuly unavoidable? Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02785137957430733599noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-27753284254971001902016-07-29T19:24:27.016+10:002016-07-29T19:24:27.016+10:00xxx
xxx<br />sandiarthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06395329327447746029noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-29754248578260146682016-07-27T12:23:37.543+10:002016-07-27T12:23:37.543+10:00I found that I was holding my breath as I read you...I found that I was holding my breath as I read your post, Kate. What you are describing is a horrid thing for your girl and for you. I'm sure, in her mind, there are doubts swirling about why she is being singled out for such unfair treatment. I think that finding a way to make sure that nastiness doesn't settle in your girl's heart is the most important thing. Those arms of yours, to wrap around her and hold her tight, will help. Those words of yours, to whisper how wonderful and brave she is, will help. That strength of yours, to show her the way to be strong, will help too. I wish you, and your beautiful daughter, much love.Meghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11573371198907761962noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-39568589813706176092016-07-22T13:57:45.090+10:002016-07-22T13:57:45.090+10:00One thing that strikes me in all these comments is...One thing that strikes me in all these comments is the stress we undergo when our kids are not happy. There is a saying: you are only happy as your unhappiest kid (or something like that) But it makes sense It is a great motivator to fix the situation-maybe we are programmed that way because really, we are not separate from our kids. Their pain is our pain. Having raised four children, I look back and wonder why we put up with certain things-life is never perfect of course, but I just think if your child is unhappy, either the school should be sorting it or you have a right to make a lot of noise until it is sorted-no one should have to put up with toxic energy at school. It is dangerous and it can have lasting affects. Best wishes and hope this gets sorted pronto! xJuliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11670652186956190728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-91394248590168028612016-07-21T21:54:18.493+10:002016-07-21T21:54:18.493+10:00Big hugs to you, Kate. I too have felt near to ner...Big hugs to you, Kate. I too have felt near to nervous breakdown lately, thanks to spiralling stress in too many parts of my life. It is all consuming, and yet it has taken my voice too, when I most need it. I write to make sense of my inner world, but I haven't been able to summon the words lately... because it all feels so complex and overwhelming, and I'm just a little bit ashamed to divulge just how bad it has all been. You're not alone. xxxlittle earth storieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16465721185400189774noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-33609491032107886132016-07-21T17:19:52.312+10:002016-07-21T17:19:52.312+10:00I wish I had advice to give or could wave the wand...I wish I had advice to give or could wave the wand and solve the problems but it is obviously beyond something any of us can solve alone. I hope that your writing here has helped already in whatever small way. <br /><br />Interesting that inwardly you are torn apart and outwardly you appear to be dealing with it. <br /><br />It is better to get things out (as you are with your writing) than to have them eat you up from the inside. The trick is to find a way to do that without hurting anyone, including yourself.<br /><br />I agree with many of the ideas expressed in previous comments. With children in university and high school now, I can vouch that bullying etc. usually dies down around the serious study time of senior schooling. I also agree that university is now sorting out the friendships from high school and the new ones and it is the time when my children have had the freedom and independence to be able to 'find their tribe'. On the other hand, time is precious and if you have the opportunity for a fresh start in a new environment, I agree that it is a good move. I have met a number of people who did that during difficult high school experiences and it was the best thing they ever did. Not necessarily easy but then nothing worthwhile in this life ever is (easy).<br /><br />Thank heavens for school holidays where you can nurture yourself and each other. Hope and hugs, xxJodiebodiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11377052537742885631noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-31562180053982197272016-07-21T11:53:32.451+10:002016-07-21T11:53:32.451+10:00Remember too that school is not the be all and end...Remember too that school is not the be all and end all. Homeschooling/unschooling is another option and these days there are so many online courses you can do. Good luck mumma xoxoJulie Maloney Handmadehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06529876368067739360noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-14343864184399723452016-07-21T11:50:17.187+10:002016-07-21T11:50:17.187+10:00Sending love and hugs to you Kate and your family....Sending love and hugs to you Kate and your family. My boys are 15 and 18 and I've found I've been stressing a lot about them too. Something that has helped me has been getting support from my herbalist. Her appointments go for 1 hour which allows me to get a lot of my worries off my chest and as the saying goes, a problem shared is a problem halved. Then I get herbs to support my health. I'm finding this is a difficult time........learning how to parent teenagers that are growing into adults, as well as beginning peri-menopause. The feeling of ants could be related to peri-menopause. I have started to get hot flushes and the feeling of ants crawling under my skin. This is a symptom of peri-menopause and it can be worse when you are stressed. Also do little things for yourself that make you feel good. A gentle walk, gentle stretching, relaxing with your knitting and a cup of tea. Take care Kate. I really hope things improve for you and your daughter. Remember that you are never alone. There is always someone who will help. Much love xxooJulie Maloney Handmadehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06529876368067739360noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-75784755133145357722016-07-20T17:41:14.132+10:002016-07-20T17:41:14.132+10:00Mothering with fierce love sounds perfect, I'm...Mothering with fierce love sounds perfect, I'm proud to own it with you. xxKatehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04234467488696653117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-76262641840613141142016-07-20T14:19:23.203+10:002016-07-20T14:19:23.203+10:00Oh boy Kate, I can completely relate to this. I h...Oh boy Kate, I can completely relate to this. I have a post I wrote about one of our boys, but I never published it because I feel like its not my story to tell. But it is. Because I am the mother, grasping at straws to keep my boy safe and happy and comfortable to be his beautiful self. It's the absolute worst. We did everything we possibly could to be supportive from home. We had his back, and he is the most resilient kid you will ever know! It took every ounce of strength not to take it into our own hands over the years, but then one day we had to. I don't know your situation, obviously, but ours had suddenly become a serious and very dangerous one. It was the hardest thing we've ever had to deal with as parents, but reaching out for help was also the best thing we ever did. Our school turned out to be pretty awesome, along with the resources they provided us. I'm not so sure our boy feels the same just yet, but I think he will one day. All my love and strength to you and your girl xmel @ loved handmadehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11089482748571082995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-54063022924522692902016-07-20T11:46:42.626+10:002016-07-20T11:46:42.626+10:00Thank you sweet Erin xxThank you sweet Erin xxKatehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04234467488696653117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-41351055263911350412016-07-20T11:39:44.412+10:002016-07-20T11:39:44.412+10:00thank you Jodie, your words are much appreciated x...thank you Jodie, your words are much appreciated xxKatehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04234467488696653117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-2891921532916402082016-07-20T11:38:25.807+10:002016-07-20T11:38:25.807+10:00Exactly, that is my mantra at the moment xxExactly, that is my mantra at the moment xxKatehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04234467488696653117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-48480156232397272172016-07-20T11:29:42.056+10:002016-07-20T11:29:42.056+10:00thank honey, all my fingers and toes too xxthank honey, all my fingers and toes too xxKatehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04234467488696653117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-14286320755643215372016-07-20T11:27:04.682+10:002016-07-20T11:27:04.682+10:00Fierce mother love is the best kind. Change can b...Fierce mother love is the best kind. Change can be good if you've tried everything else. We changed teachers last year and the relief was almost instant. xx A change of schools a couple of years ago was also a breath of fresh air and we are continually grateful we did. xoAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10957004099873133329noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-621940991058725082016-07-20T11:20:00.344+10:002016-07-20T11:20:00.344+10:00So beautifully put and so very true Jodi, thank yo...So beautifully put and so very true Jodi, thank you xxKatehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04234467488696653117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-54024848639376434762016-07-20T11:11:53.303+10:002016-07-20T11:11:53.303+10:00Thank you my beautiful friend. And thank you for f...Thank you my beautiful friend. And thank you for for checking up on me during the week, you make me so happy. xxKatehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04234467488696653117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-17038702785673646882016-07-19T21:23:33.570+10:002016-07-19T21:23:33.570+10:00Kate, try as we might, we moms are only as happy a...Kate, try as we might, we moms are only as happy as our least happiest child. Your daughter is lucky to have you, a warrior mother, in her corner. I was bullied in 2nd grade, and my mother was too involved in her own issues (addiction) to help or support me. Goodness, I am 60 years old, and I remember the details as if it happened yesterday. Please don't be too hard on yourself for your reactions; when your daughter is 60 she will be able to look back and remember "My mom had my back!" Thinking of you and your family with much love....... Lisa Smithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17325602859641802032noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-17496151843356081932016-07-19T20:13:00.470+10:002016-07-19T20:13:00.470+10:00I dont know what the problem is other than it soun...I dont know what the problem is other than it sounds like a form of bullying. Its sounds like you have acted in a responsible and mature manner as a family and are supportive of your daughter. i dont know what your options are in terms of schools but sometimes changing the school entirely is the best option. My sister's daughter was in some form being singled out and in the end changed schools. This bright and intelligent girl later became the dux of the school and some of that is attributable to her change in environment. Whatever you decide my best wishes and may strength and love prevailmoniquesmesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17207396961039829660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-59738691515965747582016-07-19T17:43:11.953+10:002016-07-19T17:43:11.953+10:00Hi Kate,
I am reading my own story here. What was ...Hi Kate,<br />I am reading my own story here. What was worse was that the main "issue" was my best friends daughter who was in the same class as my daughter. I have no advice because I tried everything. In the end here is what we did, we moved our daughter to a private school. I was under no illusion that there would be no problems there but when you are paying an institution $15000 a year believe me they sort out any issues quick smart, and this has happened only once in the three years she has been there. Secondly, I took myself off to counselling as I had fallen apart myself during the years we had problems. I found this invaluable and although I no longer go, she did recommend a great book that I bought and use in crisis times. I do know exactly how you feel, so totally powerless, yet ready to rip someone's head off and I bet you could even put a name to that someone. Horrible situation, I hope you get some relief soon. XXVanessahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15706494291838152826noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-72866011622746788442016-07-18T12:34:27.141+10:002016-07-18T12:34:27.141+10:00Sending love to you and your family.I hope things ...Sending love to you and your family.I hope things will be clearer and calmer after your break away xxx<br />Marniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13223210196091204238noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-36281006855101675512016-07-18T10:08:10.750+10:002016-07-18T10:08:10.750+10:00I find doing things that i really love that are ou...I find doing things that i really love that are out of the ordinary are great sanity savers. Buying new sheets, going to the movies, going for a swim. But in terms of helping kids i have to say that sometimes the issue just doesn't go away. You have to make a decision. My step brother had a horrible time at Highschool and wasn't coping with the work load. We had to make the decision to pull him out and after a little break he went to night courses at our local tafe instead. He loved it as it was mostly adults returning to complete year 12 so less stress of meeting HSC requirements and being around peers, and more support of like minded people. You just have to find a solution that works for the long run even if it may seem harder in the short term. Being a parent is never easy, but we have to remember that we just have to do our best and that this time will pass.Jacintahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17399196817665374933noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4573422992082776289.post-87495542827052302622016-07-17T23:00:32.621+10:002016-07-17T23:00:32.621+10:00X x not much I could write would make a difference...X x not much I could write would make a difference but, keep going. Your children are blessed to have you. Things will work out. A sunny family time together is a beautiful idea. X Vonnie100https://www.blogger.com/profile/10610097433720169954noreply@blogger.com