We've been having a bit of a difficult week my big girl and I. Well actually she's been having a hard week and so my week has felt like an upset tummy. Sometimes its felt hard to breath.There's been lots of talking, some tears and some problem solving.
Today we made the decision to take a break from it all and to run away.
We drove all the way to another town. We visited op shops and drank coffee and juice and peppermint tea. We bought textas and coloured by numbers. We talked about the crappy stuff and felt better about it. We breathed different air. We looked in shops and bumped into friends and were surprised to see some of my crocheted floral brooches from long ago in a gorgeous shop. We bought supplies for camp, for the farm and for dinner and some Lego as a present for the sisters. We walked holding hands, squeezing hands and played that pass the pulse game.
On the way home it poured with rain and we didn't talk but we sang along to a CD.
We came home feeling stronger and happier.
I need to remember to spend time one on one with my girls more often and not just wait until things go bad. But when things are a bit crappy sometimes a break from it is the best medicine of all.
I think we'll both sleep well tonight.
Good for you, and such a good reminder too. Wishing you happy days ahead. Nic x
ReplyDeleteSounds like a wonderful time. The oldest girls always have it so tough. I need to spend that quality time with my big girl too. Hope everything is sorted out soon. x
ReplyDeleteYou're a good mum!!
ReplyDeleteNow that sounds like the perfect way to solve problems and reconnect. I will admit I really really need to do this...You are awesome as always.
ReplyDeleteSounds like it was the perfect time to get away - just the two of you! And I used to love those "tile" colouring books - they were my absolute favourites!!
ReplyDeleteI hope the Fox's Lane family sleep well tonight.
Its so lovely that you have that special relationship with your girls. I hope when my girls grow up we have the same thing ... and although there were tears and crappy stuff to talk about while on your adventure I have no doubt your daughter thinks youre ace ... I know I do!!
ReplyDeleteGood on you....hope the memories of the day stay with you for a long time...well at least until you need to do it again.
ReplyDeleteSweet dreams to you both.
ReplyDeleteI love the pair of you.
Go, girls!
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This is exactly the kind of thing I love to do with my girl...such a nice way to connect away from the hustle and bustle tht is daily life.
ReplyDeleteDays like this are memories in the making :)
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Definitely the best medicine , you are such a great mum
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just the best idea to help feel a bit better - I hope all that extra strength helps your gorgeous girl through this tough patch xo
ReplyDeletebig love to you and your big girl x
ReplyDeleteOh Kate, that sounds like my idea of heaven and something I've been longing for with my girls. I bet you'll both remember today for a long time too. So special. x
ReplyDeletethat's awesome! what a great thing to do, and just what you both needed by the sound of it, well done for making that call to have some one on one time out. Truly, we are seriously living parralel lives right now, oh boy what an emotional roller coaster we're riding!
ReplyDeleteYour day out with your oldest sounds lovely!Reminds me that it has been a long time I had a one on one with my oldest.
ReplyDeleteI know exactly how you feel as been there as well recently.
ReplyDeleteTime out together away from it all is the best the medicine to ease the tension.
Glad it all worked out for you.
Happy days.
...and breathe OUT! Hope today prompts some easier times ahead with many a calm breath.
ReplyDeletesometimes it's hard to spread yourself around but when you do the results are so worthwhile! love to you and yours kate
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Sounds like you and Indi had a wonderful day to connect, even though the main thing was trying to sort out a problem. I do hope Indi isnt having too many troubles but that is why we mums have to look out for them. Your always doing a great job with your girls Kate!
ReplyDeleteA brilliant idea, Kate. Sleep well my dear. x
ReplyDeleteoh you are loverly
ReplyDeleteWhat a wonderful time you guys must have had together. Hope all problems go away soon ☼
ReplyDeleteI hope she's feeling happier soon, great therapy! x
ReplyDeleteIt is hard to remember the one on one but it sure makes a difference doesn't it. Unfortunately my hubby works most of the week long hours so it is hard to get time for one on one with the boys but it happens every so often. Talking in the car works for the boys as they don't have to look at me but i think girls really need their mums full attention don't you. 10 yr olds you gotta love them, glad I've done most of my growing up ;-)
ReplyDeleteGlad that you had some time together away from it all, just the two of you. Don't forget what a great job you do, even when it doesn't feel like it. You're always there for them and they will remember that forever xo
ReplyDeleteWhat a great escape!
ReplyDeleteNice time with just the 2 of you, to get back on track
I think it is sometimes good to go to another little place with your little for a little bit of privacy and a little bit of uninterrupted time. X
ReplyDeleteSounds like good medicine to me. Love to you and all your girls xx
ReplyDeleteOh she is such a lucky big girl to have you as her mum Kate. I suppose you can't really sort out all of her problems for her but she absolutely knows who to turn to when she needs support, and you're absolutely there for her.
ReplyDeleteI really hope you are feeling a bit less breathless about it all tomorrow.
Sounds like a gorgeous day, and a much needed moment :)
ReplyDeleteI sometimes have tough times with my big girl, too. That's why I can so relate with the bittersweet flavor of this post. I want to give you and your girl a big hug.
ReplyDeleteSuch a lovely post - it made me teary, which is not hard these days. Sometimes they just need a bit of your time - I really must do the same with my boys :)
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I know she's going through some difficult times...I always recommend the book Queen Bees and Wannabes to Moms with girls.....it's a great book to help moms understand this time in life and help guide their girls through it...although it is written with an American perspective. Just recommended it to one of my moms tonight and have another mom who is reading my copy...
ReplyDeleteI love reading your blog and your photos are always divine, I would love to know what program you use for your boarders.
ReplyDeletethis is exactly what i dream it will be like as mine grow.
ReplyDeleteKate, I think you are a wonderful mother and you inspire me to also try and be a better mother. Your posts are just lovely, so thankyou...
ReplyDeletehope Indi is feeling better & I hope you are too.
ReplyDeletenot an easy job being a parent, don't feel guilty, you are the bestest mum they have & don't you forget that!
hugs to you ♥
What a lovely day and what a wonderful Mama you are!
ReplyDelete... this brought tears to my eyes kate. beautiful. xo
ReplyDeleteBeautiful post. Made me glad I'm spending a special day with my oldest daughter tomorrow. I think all kids benefit from some special one on one time with their parents but sometimes you forget until it becomes obvious that they need it. :-)
ReplyDeleteSounds like you had a wonderful day. I hope you'll find time to "run away" more often.
ReplyDeleteLOve your blog. First time reading it tonight, and can so relate....have 3 baby girls and one boy myself. No.1 is 11 years old and I am watching her grow my the minute! Sometimes a baby, other times distant and some times 30 seconds away from tears....Learning and growing all of us together. Love the caravan pics!!! Renee
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